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Has any male made a female avatar who had some guy flirt with her only to have an uncomfortable situation as you try to decide how to respond? This question also applies to females playing as men. It seems kind of a guilty pleasure to trick the person, quietly laughing to yourself watching the scenario unfold.

Yes, I play a female PC and am a male myself. I usually /t [whoever] I'm a guy IRL and that tends to clear it up. I really don't get into the idea of flirting with guys, so that hasn't been an issue for me. Besides, my character is into girls.

Sehisso Okeci

I haven't done this in SWG. However, I have done in other games. Sometimes I sit at my computer wondering when is the best time, if there is a best time. See, for me the problem is that I'm more of a roleplayer. Therefore, when I'm playing a female I don't want to bring any real life speaking into it. So, for the sake of the roleplay, I try to delay it as long as possible. Unfortunately, there are so many people who mistake the game for real life. It's generally my attitude that if someone starts flirting with me expecting real life flirtation then that is an issue they need to work on themselves. However, I will tell you one thing. The second that our conversation turns to something real life, I would let them know I'm male.

As an example, I'm actually a gay male in real life, and I have been fooled myself. In another game, a female was playing a gay male and started flirting with me in game. I flirted back with this "male" thinking nothing of it. After all, it was all in game. But, then this person (and I have problems calling them a human being because of their malicious intent) began to try to bring the flirtation outside of the game. Email and AIM names were exchanged, all the while she continued to pretend to be male and continued to bethe aggressor in our "relationship." Now, THAT I have a problem with. I think you should be able to play whoever you want to play within the confines of the game. You should be able to roleplay however you want to roleplay without having to fear that you have to break your roleplay due to somebody else's expectations. At the same time, once you take it outside of the game, even if it is still online, that's where the line must be drawn and you have to come clean. If you don't you're displaying nothing but sheer cruelty to the person you're becoming involved with. Does that make sense?

I play a female avatar and I keep it to /smile and /wink max. It didn't happen yet, but if someone tries to push the limits I will either try to block in a roleplaying way or tell him that I'm not what he is thinking. No cyb0r 4 j00

I've played a character on another game and had problems with an aggressive female character. I don't know if the other character was controlled by a female IRL, but it got to be very uncomfortable as she moved beyond the bounds of online roleplaying.

So as not to damage the online friendship we had made, I never responded to advances and did my best to demonstrate friendly behavior, but not romantic behavior. It took a while, and resulted in some hurt feelings, but it worked out for the best I think.

It can be dicey and uncomfortable for anyone regardless of what gender you are and what gender you are playing.

I've played both sexes for years...it's whatever character comes to mind when I play. But I'm a writer...for me, this is the writer's version of improv exercises...so if someone RP's an advance, it's the character responding, in my mind, not me.
But I've had people try to take things OOC before, and it's a large part of the reason why my details as a player are very private. I've just found it easier all around if everything's kept strictly IC...the exception, of course, are those who know me RL. But I'm not interested in starting a romantic relationship over the net. I've done long distance ones before, they're very draining, and besides, I'm very, very taken in real life.
Everything stays in game...and that goes both ways. If my character does something mean or creul, I make sure the other player realizes that's the character doing that, not the player against them.

I'm a female and play a male character( I'm sorry to hear what happenedbtw Drygo)and have done it inmany other games... I just feel more comfortable playing a male and would rather see my sexy male Bothan butt shake than stare at a female body when I do that everytime I look at myself. Idon't feel uncomfortable at all flirting with other girls as long as they know it's just a roleplaying thing; being an entertainer to help them relax, so like Drygo said, "The second that our conversation turns to something real life..."

It's just flirting with guys... because I fear I'll make them uncomfortable...Like my friend said, "It's perfectly acceptable to see girls flirting with each other, but not so for males... "

I haven't gotten any complaints yet though.

I am a male playing a female. I have never done that before; in fact I always used to razz my buddies who played female Half-Elven rangers in other games. I played a male in Beta. I also made a female on Ahazi. It is the female I decided to stick with. She is a Dancer, hopefully shortly she will be a Master Dancer. I intend to keep that title up when I get it.

In the meantime, it is my intention to become a Teras Kasi artist, so I can kick the butts of the juvenile freaks who come and taunt the Dancers. I'm not gay or effeminate (though my wife is having a good laugh at my character). I'm a role-player. It seems to me that better the role-player, the more likely they will be either 1. A different race, or 2. A different sex. I think the disproportionate number of Humans in the game shows the lack of role-playing skills.

I'm a good roleplayer. My male character fell in love with a female character that he knew for a long time. And in lust with a couple of others. The problem is that I play with my real life husband most of my gaming time- and he is as much of a roleplayer as I am a man in real life. So fairly quickly, folks around me knew what my real life gender was, even if my character was cross-gendered from me. Imagine if you will the troll warrior introducing the dwarven cleric as his wife, (in EQ, can you tell?) and the dwarf spluttering, "I'm NOT! I'm a Male! Get it through your thick skull!" and then proceeding to ogle the ladies in a sleazy but not over the line fashion. Because he was there, I usually got to know what they were in real life.

The most fun role-playing I had was with my male dwarf flirting with a female human wizard played by a gay man in real life. Fortunately, my husband only became seriously amused. Eventually in the game, she got married to someone, and my dwarf got to perform the service.

Here, I am a female dancer and Image Designer. And I put a stop to excessive flirting by discussing my husband with them. Folks tend to behave when they learn I don't indulge in adultery (in character or out). My husband is doing a little better in the roleplay department now that I'm exclusively flirting with him too. So it's all right. Ah, twi'lek-Bothan love! We plan on marrying in game soon, at a party our player town is holding.

Hey all

I'm not preaching or anything, just sharing my feelings on the matter.

Its a game. Some people make the mistake of going into it looking for love. Some people make the sick mistake of getting a cheap thrill of pretending to be something they are not. Such is the mask of the internet.

I see the players I spend time with as avatars, and nothing more. I don't roleplay romance with my characters because, unless I'm good friends with the person on the other end, it just gets awkward.

I know this isn't always the case.

I know there are those people who get off on pretending to be the opposite sex, or log in to watch their avatar get them hot. People will be people.

This transfers into real life, too. People can be anything they want you to believe they are. Whether it be with makeup, a lie, whatever.

If you're looking for a cheap thrill, don't be surprised when the person on the other end turns out to be false. If you fall in love with someone on the other end, well:

"You have dance like noone is watching, and love like its never going to hurt."

Anyone who maliciously pretends to be something, and toys with other people in theguise of "roleplaying" is disturbed in my opinion. But that is just my opinion. The key to the game is have fun.

I know two friends who married after only meeting once after playing EQ for 2 years together. They're still with each other and happy. I know plenty of friends who also complain that the hot 16 year old cheerleader with the 36DD hitting on them was really a guy. Go figure

Thanks for reading

Iphis

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Iphis wrote:

Some people make the sick mistake of getting a cheap thrill of pretending to be something they are not. Such is the mask of the internet.

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Does this describe yourself? Are you sick? Because unless you are playing a Female Human Working Stiff or Housewife who does nothing at all except whatever it is that you do in real life, then you are pretending to be something that you are not. Anyone who picks any race but Human, is "pretending to be something they are not". Anyone who fires a laser weapon is "pretending to be something they are not".

Crap, the very definition of "Role-Playing" is "pretending to be something you are not". I think you seriously need to re-think your post.

I think that was refering to those who get a cheap thrill out of it.

Not a normal thrill of role-playing and pretending you're something you're not, a cheap thrill.

Know what I'm sayin? *wink**wink*

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Etalesi wrote:

Like my friend said, "It's perfectly acceptable to see girls flirting with each other, but not so for males... "

I haven't gotten any complaints yet though.

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Double standards stink! But, they are the way of the world!

I play a female dancer named after my wife. I flirt with males heavily, because it means better tips!