Dancer Archive
Thread: Single Vs. Married
Haerb wrote:
I've never gotten many tips, anyway, but I have noticed this... Whenever I'm getting cozy with someone in an RP sense, all of a sudden EVERYONE wants to get cozy with me. It starts out, "Happily married to blah blah, the love of my life" in all the bios. Then, all of a sudden, it's like all the single women come in a wave... Good match, good fun, she isn't too put off that I can be a PVP-happy powergaming super-Acheiver type, and things are good. Then, of course, things quiet down eventually, and I'm one of the ones with the "Happily married to..." in the bio, but then the in-game sig-other quits or somesuch... I've had two leave the game on me, and the third... well, the third was the alt of one of the ones who had the "Happily married to..." in the bio, and that got wierd fast.
So while there are definitely patterns to in-game marriage, I can't say they've affected my tips any
Not always, fatty has been married to the same wookiee female for rought a year now, and we are still happy, now skinny on the other hand,he burns through the ladys, but that is because he is extremly flirtious
Message Edited by fattymcgee on 09-17-2005 03:04 PM
But as far as it affecting tips... no, I don't think it did.
FaedraDelauney wrote:
Off topic but not.
Anyone with two toons, if you have one toon who is married ingame, but the other isn't, should you tell people that your other toon (the one you are not currently on) is married?
When on my home server (Chilastra) where I have 3 characters, I don't. However, there are only 6 people on the server who know I play all 3 characters and the only times I am ever OOC are when I'm talking to one of those few closest of my friends or when I am talking as correspondent to someone about Dancer interests.
My male Bothan character is a flirt and a bit of a cad and no woman in her right mind would ever take him seriously (& I'd never let it getanywhere near thepoint that anyone might). My female Trandoshan's personality is based on that of my 28 year old African grey parrot and she is far too caught up in her own self-importance to become involved in anything as silly as romance. I am aware that there are a lot of people investing a great deal more of their rl emotions than I do in my rp. On other servers I am almost always OOC (the exception being a little rp on Kauri). The few times it has come up in conversations, I've referred to Mell as "Esharra's husband on Chil".
To reword whatI think you are asking into a context that better fits my situation: If I were to involve myselfin a relationship where I think it would matter to the other party involvedthat Esh was married to Mell, would I tell him? Most certainly, yes, I would feel a responsibility to. But I tend to be most comfortable with boundaries that are well established. Be there no misunderstandings, Mell and Esh are very different people from the players who portray them in game.
Well it certainly isn't getting to a "relationship point" in my book, (tho with someof theyoungerplayers you sayhi in the cantinaand they areproposing and or asking you "out") Fae'dra is notcurrently looking for a relationship and just wants to talk and make friends as she is a lonely dancer who is working hard to open and maintain her own cantina with her good friend and fellow guildmate Val. She is a Twi'lek who enjoys light flirting but won't do more than give flowers and blow the occasional kiss or kiss the patrons cheek when they give her flowers or ovations. I am chatty though and I ask specific questions about their hunting and or crafting, etc. All the things you do to make tips or friends.
I just wanted to see if there were a basic moral leg for these strangers to stand on. Or advice on avoiding the pitfalls of running two chracters. Is there a forum for multiple accounts? ^O^
Message Edited by FuschiaD on 09-19-2005 08:14 PM
Here's my motto:
Married...or not married...I'd hit it. (just don't get caught)
^o^ I seem to be burning bridges by not becoming involved and or not saying I am married. Bah. ^o^ oh well I just wanna make friends aside from my ingame husband(single), so I want my second character to be relatively seperated.
FuschiaD wrote:
You know, Faedra... it's odd you should bring that up, because that's why Ava and Geen got divorced. To put it into as few words as possible (which won't be easy, it's a complicated story), Geen's player and I decided that our other characters wouldn't be involved with anyone else but each other. A few months afterward, RL interfered for him and he wasn't able to play much - and when he was on, he was usually AFK working. I got lonely - and that's about the same time I met my current RL boyfriend (we met in-game). At the time there wasn't anything RL going on but the pull was immediately there, and I knew I wanted to be with him in-game... was just a matter of figuring out how to go about it. I didn't do a very good job of it, and I ended up losing one of the best friends I ever had in-game because of it. And there isn't a day that goes by that I don't wish I could fix the situation, cause this guy was my other half in SWG for the better part of a year, and now we don't talk at all. He was very pissed at me, and rightfully so.I hate burning bridges.
So, if you're gonna carry on two RP relationships with two different people, good luck, you'll need it.
P.S. I guess I should specify, before anyone starts wondering what the hell this has to do with ANYTHING, that the character that got involved with my RL boyfriend's character was Fuschia, not Ava. /slap self
Message Edited by FuschiaD on 09-19-2005 08:14 PM
Message Edited by FaedraDelauney on 09-20-2005 11:30 AM
FaedraDelauney wrote:
Anyone with two toons, if you have one toon who is married ingame, but the other isn't, should you tell people that your other toon (the one you are not currently on) is married? Fae'dra is NOT married, end of story., she is also not a combat toon, and she doesn't have combat medic, so in my mind it is the same thing. I wouldn't take her out hunting, and I wouldn'thave Faedra flirting.
Yet someone who had been attempting to chat up that toon (Fae'dra)became irate when I was on Faedra because I hadn't mention I was married... Perhaps my fault for the names being so close, but still it fits my story... and two toons =two in game people IMHO, they are even guilded seperately to further seperate the account associations, I don't deny they are played by the same people when I am not RPing (that is just a road for my eventual insanity). Any thoughts or advice? I probably shouldn't care, but I can see this happening alot in the future.
I have 2 toons on one server, one married and the other single. I joke with my in-game hubby that one toon is the wifeand the other the mistress. I would find it too difficult to have separate marriages going to different players.
All my other toons are single and will remain so unless my IG hubby comes to one of the other servers I play on.
FaedraDelauney wrote:
Anyone with two toons, if you have one toon who is married ingame, but the other isn't, should you tell people that your other toon (the one you are not currently on) is married? Fae'dra is NOT married, end of story., she is also not a combat toon, and she doesn't have combat medic, so in my mind it is the same thing. I wouldn't take her out hunting, and I wouldn'thave Faedra flirting.