Dancer Archive
Thread: grrrrr the real nasty ones
It galls me that people think that they can harass people, slap a "roleplay" sticker on it, and go on their merry way. Sadly... they can, because clearly the CSR's don't do anything to help. Nothing like feeling victimized doing something that's supposed to be a hobby... *sigh*
the good part about it was how so many people there did all they could to defend me (the circle around me really was a clever idea and made me smile), and how many people have heard of it by now and want to help too.
as far as the CSR ticket, i got a response that i should use /ignore and /report, both of which i said in the ticket that i had done, so, oh well. it also asked me to close the ticket at my earliest convenience. i added a comment that noted i had done both those things, and had explained why i thought /ignore was not enough in this situation in the ticket itself. i said they might not agree with me, but my earliest convenience for closing the ticket will be after i at least know they read it. but, i won't be holding my breath there.
there are always going to be real jerks out there, but at least i have good friends on my side, and i feel much better today than i did last night. and even at the worst, i knew i woudln't drop dancer over this jerk. i already did drop dance once and got it back, i'm a dancer at heart i guess.
In my experience the /ignore optionis the worst thing you can do. Its worse than useless. Itgives the other person the ability to continue to say and do vulgarthings and actually restricts you!
I had a similar situation a while back, though it wasn't as extreme. I didn't put the guy on /ignore but literally did ignore him for several minutes. He gave up just in time because I was about to report him.
I've had these problems before. Though I refuse to let them 'win' and give up my dancer title.
Usually I respond to /lick and /drool the same way with something about how drool on the floor makes the dancers slip and hurt themselves, then they can't dance anymore. And that also drool can really ruin a good dress and times are hard enough as it is.
That's usualy been enough. I have an emote to step away from the puddle of drool too, and all three usually earn a laugh or an lol and there is not more problems. once I can tolerate, and the kisses I can tolerate when it was more of a goodbye thank you.
I've been harassed by this one Twi'lek, obviously raised by veermok, who kept beating up on my poor little Squall, when I asked that he stop /slaping my pet he resorted to punching. Then it went to where he was doing it to everyone in the room. I let him think I had /add ignored him. (But I didn't- I only do it to people who are obviously macro spamming after about 5 minutes of it. I like how dorky people act when they think no one is listening.) I denied him service, put my pet away and sat down to craft.
Usually, there are people around who love my character and defend her quite well so it's not that much a bother, but if it gets too bad I just sit down.
I'm a roleplayer, but someone to use that as an excuse to be hurtful doesn't know the meaning of the word. Usually they also know the difference between IC and OOC and designate them as such. You can see it in...
Tekoa: Jedi were nothing more than hypocritical, lying dictators. If they had cared any about freedom and peace maybe Ryloth wouldn't be in the state that it is. Or what about the people that were abandoned on Yanibar by the Jedi? Hmph... The worlds wont be any better with or without them... I don't know why people try to cling to a false hope....
Tekoa: ((I think I'll be waiting for the quest system to come out before trying to open my Jedi slot. It'll either be Twi'lek or Bothan too I think... hehe, a Bothan with a lightsaber would be cute.))
The (( )) is obviously Out Of Character talk. Or insert a guy talking about wookie sex slaves or something then ((He's got a deep grudge against wookie, one that was trying to escape slavery killed several people in the attempt to get away and my character's little brother was one.
) A role player will know WHY their character is behaving a certain way and if that certain way walks the fine line of harassment a good Roleplayer will inform the party in question that this is not a personal attack- it IS in chracter.
The responding party can then play accordingly (free wookie will attack right?) And the roleplayer will respond to the Duel either by accepting or playing out rejection of the duel. ::Bob sees the wookie is getting riled and thinks now's a good time to lay off, for fear of his arms:: ::Bob hears his mother calling and edges away from the irate wookie:: That sort of thing. Or the responding party can take it to /tell and explain that the talk is making them uncomfortable, please mellow it out a bit or stop etc.
If the roleplayer isn't cool with that and persists to harass the person.... report em because Roleplaying is supposed to be in consideration of the others roleplaying with you. If I told my friends (we have a group of Palladium/Gurps dnd roleplayers each sunday) that I was uncomfortable with how one of their characters kept making vulgar advances to my character (none do) they'd stop. Roleplay is supposed to be enjoyable for everyone. ::sage nod::
I think you did fine by reporting them. And I agree that /add ignore can be restricting, besides you want to be able to get a screen shot of what the guy is saying in case a CSR needs it for some reason. It's proof and all.
NeoTheHutt wrote:
for gods sake there are already 50 threads about this subject. USE ONE OF THOSE!!!!
is there a reason that the chip on your shoulder is as big as the empire state building?
sometimes i don't /addignore, this time i did because i was flustered enough already and didn't want to see more, and, from the /groupchat i knew that others were still watching him and taking screenshots of the worst of it. but yeah, for someone without defenders in this situation, you mightnot be able to literally ignore if you need proof later.
an update, this guy has been back to the cantina, but not ever at a time i've been there since. according to friends, he's behaving now. that's a good thing to hear! maybe someone did talk to him and get through.
I have to add my favorite line here, that I got to use the other day:
Welcome to my ignore list. Population: you.
NJ62 wrote:
I have to add my favorite line here, that I got to use the other day:
Welcome to my ignore list. Population: you.
Perfect! May I borrow that?
Kreistor wrote:
NJ62 wrote:
I have to add my favorite line here, that I got to use the other day:
Welcome to my ignore list. Population: you.
Share and share alike! Go for it (the reaction is quite amusing, I assure you, because usually the person being ignored doesn't get the humor, while others in the vicinity laugh.)