Dancer Archive

All good ideas. Only had it come up once for me. Didnt really know how to handle it as i just assumed it was a young man. Finally gave him back his tips and refused any further from him. He finally understood that I refuse to be bought. I can handle most as really many just being silly but he gave me the willies...not really sure why just instinct. Majority understand its roleplay but when you work the same cantina for awhile friendships flourish if you actually active at the keyboard lol. Most of saved egos have been since I put on my bio that i was taken. They still flirt a lot but keep it at acceptable range.

I was bad.
I had fun with roleplay/stalkers one time.
So, I'm married(in game), right? Well, my 'husband' goes out of town for a couple days, so he's not around. This guy starts stalking me, giving me thousands of dollars in tips, I swear he gave me 10k at least. Then he starts saying he's in love with me, he can't stand to be away, and I'm like 'hey, that's creepy'. So I pretend I'm in love with him too, but I'm also in love with my husband. For about a week I have this terrible (and dramatic) dilemma about who I love more (my husband wasnt around a couple days extra..). Eventually, my husband returns, and we flee to Naboo from the 'terrible stalker who hasn't been leaving me alone'. My husband was harassing him because I whined to him about it, and I told the other guy that I had chosen my husband. It may have been a terrible way to deal with a stalker, but it sure was fun... in a terrible kind of way. Sometimes it's just fun to play the whore.

On the other hand, the big tippers who treat you with respect and don't want anything in return- those are keepers.

Yeah, I have one semi-stalkr right now. He is just a little smothering with the "blah blah kisses you on the cheek" "you make blah blah feel all warm and fuzzy" . And I agree with the posters saying the friends list is a little disconcerting. I hate logging in just to transfer something or run a mission and there he freakin is "hi are you dancing? I just bought a ticket to your city. I love you. You are so cute" etc etc. I like dancing, I like meeting people, but I hate that some poeple don't get it... as already stated, my dancer is NOT real. In fact, in the spirit of role-playing she looks nothing like me! I am not an alien with tentacles for hair in real life! My boobs are no where near that perfect, and Iwon't wear a size 1 anywhere in my lifetime. Being cute and flity is okay, being a freak of nature and forgetting this isn't real is scary!

Okay, thanks for letting me rant

Before you take any action like reporting or submitting a ticket, make sure he got your intentions. Men don't fall for subtle hints or notice if or when you are consciously avoiding them. Don't send hidden messages, don't use indirect speech. Send him a /tell ( direct discreet message )saying you feel uncomfortable with his behaviour and suggest an alternative. Use direct speech. Don't leave doubts. When you did this and he doesn't change, report him.

I wish I had a stalker........If I have to tolerate someone who is creepy and weird but have them follow me around tipping me thousands of $......well lets just say I wouldn't discourage her, or him for that matter, I am that broke, I tried doing solo destroys as but my TKA skills dont quite cut it. Please stalkers Come to me! I don't care how weird you are, just keep the tips coming.

As suppose female dancers have all the luck I guess.

Ah! But I never said they tipped me....

If your stalkers don't tip it's an even bigger problem.

Never tell anyone your gender, except for friends you can trust who won't broadcast the fact. However, sometimes this doesn't work and people assume you may be a girl anyway. There was one situation where someone offered my sexy Twi'lek avatar a job dancing in his PA's cantina, which turned out to be more of a lure to "get to know me better" and eventually wound up making me a bit uncomfortable. He didn't say anything extreme, do anything rude or offensive, but getting tells and emails long after you make it clear you are not available gets irritating. RP wise my character was already in a relationship with someone else and I told him this, but he still didn't get the message. Eventually I just put him on /ignore. I don't think he intended to make me uncomfortable, but some guys who spend a little too much time in front of a computer than with real women fail to realize "I'm not interested" means just that.

If the stalker is only watching you while you perform, I doubt he's really doing any harm. Just be on your guard in case the situation changes, and be prepared to act accordingly.

Before you start reporting people, make sure youtalk tothemwith anooc tell about the situation. Make it clear that your unconfortable with the situation and that can clear up alot of messes. Guy might just be rp playing some smitten fool and not knowing that you're getting uncomfortable with it. Anyone who is NOT dangerous will back off at that point.

I walked into a Cantina and asked if anyone had seen a friend of mine around one night. Just said, "Hey, has anyone seen XXXXXXX tonight?" Some entertainer I didn't know called me a stalker and said she was going to report me.

Not only was that offensive, buta reported offense is amark on someone's account.

I.

PS Tip Male Dancers, %$@#^&. We got to eat too.

I have yet to see a male dancer so I can tuck paper bills into his trousers. Watch out now, I might turn out to be a snarling, man-crazy Twi'lek when I see some fine male bootay shakin'... Erm... I mean.. of course not, I'd be a proper lady. Yeah, thats it.

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Likeet wrote:

If I were her I'd confide in a male character she can trust and who doesn't care about marital status in game and do a quickie marriage and have her tell the guy, "I got married last night ook at my ring!". Keep it all in game, and offer for him to meet the new husband. Have the new husband play the protective type.

She could always enlist lots of guy friends to do the same thing as this guy, every time he shows up so do they.... and they can be like "dude are you stalking her?? We always see you in here when you don't need to be".

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I would have to say that while trying to be helpful, it is really bad advice. First of all,don't play mind games by pretending anything!Especially a fakemarriage. You simply put them on perma-ignore and then YOU ignore them also. This means ignore everything the person says and does. Even if they say something you have a really good response for, don't take the bait. Do not perform for them, (and I don't mean by dancing, I mean by changing any part of your playing style). To you they should no longer exist. period. Especially if they seem as threatening as was explained in the first post.

There's only so much an annoyer will do before he no longer gets a thrill from you ignoring him. Of course he can be reported if he is annoying enough but remember you're gonna have to do something while the wheels of justice turn, and that thing you do? nothing.

Wokka-Wokka

i want a stalker, just to get all freaked out lol interesting experience for me...hoping for a girl though

Thanks for the advice Wooka. That's the best way to deal with it I think, when it's getting too much

I just had an experience with one guy that would not leave me alone. It all started when a friend that roleplays and Imperial officer, told this other imperial to look after me as I was dancing, becourse he had to leave. At first I thought it was only RP but he was starting to send very frequent tells and soon I was in the position that I didn't have time to speak to anyone but him. I told him repeatedly that neither I nor my char will ever be interested in any sort of relationship. He was saying how he ..loves..me..And how he would do anything for me, he just wanted to be sure I was okay.. I was out fighting last night, almost made TK novice now, Yey! I was getting fed up with him, and told him yet again to back off and leave me alone. His only response is to keep giving me complimants, I am now very fed up and even I can loose my cool, he then starts to tip me. 10k.. I tip him back 9k since I didn't want to loose any of my money on bank charges. I am still not talking to him, but he just keep sending me tells, begging me to talk to him. I tell him I am RL male, I been told that usually does the trick, even if I don't like lying. It didn't make any diffrence to him he said..Another 5k tip, I send it back, a 20k tip, 10k... He pleads with me that for 30k can I please give him 3 minutes of my time.. I am now having a bad headache and feeling very freeked out..

Finally I told my good imperial RP friend to give him a good talk and see if that would do the trick, it didn't so the guy is now on /ignore..I hate to have to do that, but sometimes you just can't please everyone, all you can do is look after yourself and keep enjoying the game.