Politician Archive
Thread: Story of the Bad Apple ATTITUDES
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ArthurP
Sun Apr 04, 2004 10:49 am
#1
One Friday evening a farmer sent his son out into the orchard to collect a basket of apples. Now, it wasn't the son's job to collect the apples, in fact he lived a relative life of ease. But the farmer's blind wife wanted to make a few pies and it wouldn't be until Monday morning when the hired help would be harvesting the orchard.
The son argued and complained about being forced to do such a dirty job, but the father encouraged his son to do work with a good spirit saying "Bad attitudes spoil good work". In the end, the son reluctantly took a large basket and made his way to the field - bad attitude and all.
When the son got to the orchard he stopped at the very first tree. Now, this line of trees was close to a neighboring farm that used dangerous pesticides. The son knew this, but his bad attidude was clouding his judgment. He was so eager to finish, so focused on HIS feelings and how HE had been wronged, he failed to notice dropping in one rotten apple - one rotten apple, that had absorbed chemicals from the nearby farm.
Being blind, When the farmers wife made the pies, she had no way of seeing the imperfection of that one apple. If she had, she would have known that each apple had being affected. Nor did she know that each had now absorbed high levels of dangerous chemicals. Sadly, when the family sat down to enjoy a delicious desert of apple pie... they all perished never knowing why.
Friends, bad attidues can destroy a thriving city. When we complain, focus only on ourselves and hold on to wrongs done to us, we sour relations between guild members and other citizens. It is like a rotten apple that can ruin an entire basket.
Everyone, citizens AND leadershave to work HARD to keep citiesfriendly places to live.
- Watch what you say. Insults, even in jest may cause wounds you'll never see. 9 times out of 10, an insulting joke is saying what you really feel anyway. Think of others first, change your attitude - and change your words.
- Please be aware of others around you and avoid language that is offensive or derogatory. Some will tell you, others won't. Ask yourself, is it WRONG or unusual for someone to be offended by offensive comments? No... It's kinda built into the word, isn't it?
- Be generous, go out of your way to help someone.
- Three Words - Follow the Leader. If you are in a team or group (raid, hunt, or musical) - let leaders lead. Don't argue, fuss, and ignore. If what you really want is to go solo - do so, and don't ruin the experience for everyone else.
- Encourage and cheer others when they succeed. Do not tear down when they have a setback or make a mistake.
- If someone wrongs you, take time to cool off - then try to resolve it between you two. If you can't do that, bring in a guild or city leader. Do NOT make it public or allow it to spread to others.
- NEVER say derogatory things about a neighborning guild - even if someone in their group did something to you. Keep your problem with that person, do not try to make it a guild feud.
Please remember the difference between your enemy and your friend. Save the trash talk and bad behavior for the bad guys.. andkeep your city alive.
Message Edited by ArthurP on 04-04-2004 01:23 PM
A Little Bit Of Pain Never Hurt Anyone
SWeaTiNGBuLLeTZ
Mon Apr 05, 2004 4:53 am
#3
I love how we actually have to explain this to people...
Kyorlana
Mon Apr 05, 2004 8:28 am
#5
Quite right... shame that this isn't common sense and courtesy to some though.
Chibi-Bar
Mon Apr 05, 2004 11:03 am
#6
good story.. good moral.. it is pretty sad we have to explain these things.. I would assume the rule of "treats other as you wanted to be treated" would have been good enough 
ArthurP
Mon Apr 05, 2004 11:21 am
#7
Maybe I should have added a 'count to ten' rule, too.
This was inspired by a few situations in my city. It's one thing to be rude and lash out at the enemy.. but for people on the same side of the Faction war - AND in the same city (or guild)... it's just not a good thing. But the truth is - some players are in their teens and below - and some what is happening is due to youthful exhuberance and lack of maturity.
Sometimes being mayor or guild leader requires time spend as a youth counselor... I don't say this as a put down on anyone, just stating the obvious. Children and teens by nature of their age do not have thesame social skills that an adult (should) have. And this game being largely social - it will reflect the SAME social problems that occur in real life.
The trick to being a mayor really is diplomacy and problem solving (something we don't get XP in). For allaspiring mayors, I recommend reading "How to Win Friends and Influence People". Not kidding... it's a GREAT read - and I read it back in High School.
Chibi-Bar
Mon Apr 05, 2004 11:46 am
#8
sadly... I can agree that to some... some adults I know... act very childish online.. why?? cause they can.. there are no "real life" rules or barriers.. or "physical" consequences as real life...
i.e. If I mouth off someone in real life... I probably get a beating... if I beat someone in real life.. I probably end up in jail or fines that would hurt me financially or physically...
in game??? nothing much.. if you are neutral.. you might get reported and "banned" from couple of places.. but you continue on.. you don't get "perma banned" unless you do something really serious.. unless you are rude via ingame mechanics...
that is the problem really.. the virtual world opens up a whole new level of "maturity" some carries the real life "rules" and place them in virtual worlds.. some just don't bring it...
ArthurP
Tue Apr 06, 2004 12:20 am
#10
All that being true... it's amazing how well behaved the vast majority is! Its all good.
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