Dancer Archive

a certain level of primness?

Here's a general guideline:

Someone who has sexual contact with others as easily as most would shake a hand is a **edit**. Someone who has sexual contact with others for money is a whore. Someone who has sexual contact with someone in order to engender a feeling of acceptance and affection is needy. Someone who has sexual contact with people who do not deserve their attention is lacking in self-respect. Someone who dresses in anover-sexualized way is seeking a shortcut to attractive. Someone who flirts excessively or speaks in a generally provocative way is a tease. Some of these things are thought to be "bad" some, simply "sad"... BUT!!

Someone who creates an avatar on a computer game and dresses her in an outfit made of dental-floss and high hopes, flirts up the dickens, shakes her booty, /kisses /licks and /tackles and /flirts with everyone she sees is still most like just like me - a staid, somewhat frumpy housewife, in a 10year+ stable relationship with two kids, a developmentally delayed dog, and all the moral sense, self-respect, and pride that some 20yo kid with zip life-experience would assume she lacks because she has fun in a game they think reflects some form of reality.

The truth remains that in real life, I don't have lekku, I'm not 6ft tall, my rack isn't huge, I don't go to clubs and lick people I don't know, and I can't wear many of the outfits my char does because even with jeans I need something hip-length to disguise the fact that my stretch marks pooch over my waist-band. I hope that those who would sneer at my small clothes at least benefit from some grand sense of moralistic joy, secure in the knowledge that everyone else, like them, is so stunted in imagination, so terrified of being taken for a "woman of ill repute" that they can't even pretend to be a flirty little tart.

It's a roleplaying game. Play any role you wish. As far as I'm concerned, the bigger the departure from your real life, the better. It's vicarious living.

On the other hand, those who don the "floss" and flirt outrageously should be prepared to be shunned by those roleplaying individuals who would look down on that and frown. The question is, are they frowning in real life, or is it just their character frowning?

I'll admit there are times when I feel my character would do something or say something, but I do not simply because I'm not sure whether the person behind the character on the other end would take it entirely out of context and get offended.

It's why I like to seek out and play with those who really love to roleplay. But I don't expect to get that in a public cantina.

I'm rambling, but what I'm really trying to say is that this sort of game gives you a lot of freedom to live out a fantasy. My advice is to use that freedom to have a lot of fun. Sounds like you're doing just that, KifDancer.

- Javier

So your dog is handicap? do you get good parking spots with him?

It's true. So many players bring their real-life attitudes and prejudices into a roleplaying game. There's no law against it, of course, but I agree with the poster who said that being something you're not is one of the real draws and pleasures of roleplaying.

I have 2 characters I mainly play in SWG. My Dancer is, like Kif, a sexy, flirty (but classy) professional. She can fend off the verbal groping just fine and doesn't get all moralistic about players who get turned on by 3D rendered polygons. The way I see it, if I really were a dancer I'd have to do the same thing.

My other character is a pistol-toting scout. She's petite, black-haired, and mean. She has such horrible faction with most living, breathing things it's a wonder she isn't KOS to the entire galaxy. If she were a Jedi she'd be Dark Side, no question -- and she's modelled directly off my EQ and DA necromancers. She's as much fun to play as my sexy, well-built dancer. But neither one of them is me. They're simply alternate expressions of my personality.

But in RL, I'm a young (note emphasis ) grandma. I had my children early and now both of them have their own babies. I've managed to maintain my figure pretty much, but even regular workouts can't completely stay the hands of time and gravity ("sag" rhymes with "lag", ironic isn't it?). I've always had a pragmatic view of sexuality and think its relationship to morality is tied to what hurts others, not how naked you are. Unfortunately there are far too many people in my culture who think naked = sinful, and I don't have much patience with them, either offline or in game.