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I <3 Panthu, personally. I think she's awesome. It's good to have a correspondent that doesn't work for her own agenda.

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Panthu said:

I am still a player and if you call me out again I will report you for harassment. Stop talking about me in game. Stop trying to make everyone think I have it out for you. Don't ever send me another hateful PM again.

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I dont know where that came from or exactly what it means. The only time I've ever talked about you in-game is with friends when we were discussing posting in the forum and the problems I was having trying to do so. Quite frankly it felt to me like every time I tried to say something or express an opinion that you were right there contradicting me or telling me to be 'nice.' I asked a question to try and discuss something that was important to me and the first response I got was a reply from you telling me to be 'nice.' And Im not sure how I could ask a general question like that in a way that's nice or not nice. So to me it felt like you we're upset about me even asking the question. I'm not saying you were. I'm saying that was MY perception and the perception of sevral others.

And it was in response to that message that I sent youPM. Hateful? I was angry yes and expressed that. Because I felt like I was being ridiculed, demeaned and my concerns trivialized and that your tone was condescending. Again, I'm not saying you were. I'm saying that was MY perception and the perception of some others.

I dont 'Dislike' you. I dont know you well enough to like or dislike you. All I can tell you is thatMY perceptionwas that it felt likeyou took exception to everything I said and the manner is which I said it.

And I'm not sure what you mean by my 'interaction' with my customers and other entertainers being 'unsettling.' To my knowledge I've never had a problem with my interaction with others in all the time I've been playing. I'm not aware of any of my friends, fellow dancers or customers being 'unsettled' by my interactions with them. If you don't mind could you be specific as you what I have done that you find unsettling?

As far as 'calling you out' I'm not even sure what that means so if something I'm doing in game upsets you, please be specific and I'll try to avoid it. I'm not aware that I've ever encountered you in game and if I've done so I'm totally unaware of doing so.

I've reread this message a half dozen times and had my husband read over it as well. I've also sent the text to a friend to have her look over itto ensure that there nothing in here thatcould be miscontrued as being mean or sarcastic or hateful. I'mhonestly trying to Communicate. How much luck I will have, time will tell.

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Can't we all just get along?

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All warfare is based on deception. Hence, when able to attack, we must seem unable; when using our forces, we must seem inactive; when we are near, we must make the enemy believe we are far away; when far away, we must make him believe we are near. - Sun Tzu - The Art of War

It means saying "Panthu thinks this", "Panthu says that", and almost anything starting with "girlie." ... and I mean on the forums.

I don't often talk about personal issues in the forums on my own (unless I feel backed into a corner and throw up a warning)and I honestly just get very embarrassed when other people try to say I am doing or thinking something I am not on that kind of personal level. As a Corr, I expect to get a lot of heat sometimes... but when it's me as a person being attacked, it just feels weird.

Your tone sounds different. I believe you if you say this is just a misunderstanding and we just haven't been communicating well. You seem to have a lot of friends in game and I always loved your old posts so I hoped this would just blow over, but I seemed to just keep making you madder and madder.

I really don't have anything against you or your post topics... but let's take this to PMs if you want to talk about it more. This really is embarrassing for me. O.o Maybe that's our biggest difference, lol... I'm insanely careful when posting and you are just full on passionate.

I never use the word 'Girlie' so I'm so unsure what that refers to. I've alwaydisliked that word and I don't think I've ever used it in written or spoken communication.

I AM concerned however when you say I'm doing 'unsettling' things in game in my interactions with others. That disturbs me greatly andI would like it clarified. I don't consider that Personal. I consider it part of my game-play. So, to ME, again, simply my Perception, that amounts to almost an accusation against which I'm powerlesss to defend myself and I'd like it clarified less it leave others with a mis-perception.

If it's simply a difference of style or opinion on how best to interact with others, fine. Then we'll simply have to agree to disagree on how we perform as dancers.

When I write I use hyperbole, I use sarcasm and I use every other writing device of which I know to raise passions, to stir feelings.I try to make people think outside of the boxes and lines in which they so often imprison themselves.

Too often people don't think deeply about many issues and simply agree or disagree with opinions already expressed. One of my goals has always been to spur people to think, to consider new ideas, even if they reject them in the end. But to reject or accept them based on critical thought, not simply because someone else said them.

Discussion without passion, to me, seems a little empty and meaningless. If there is no passion behind an idea or an opinion then, to me, it seems that that idea or opinion doesnt really mean very much to someone.

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Ok, so you called me "girl" not "girlie" whatever, it's not the first time you have made a comment on you being my aged superior... which yes, I consider personal.

I said I would not do this here. I have screen shots of the incident in question and can go over them with you in detail and my reaction at each point if you like, but I will not do this here.