Dancer Archive
Thread: Girls, does it ever bother you?
FuschiaD
Tue Mar 01, 2005 5:18 am
#183
Schardour wrote:
NO! Don't do that! A young man may find it appropriate to share too much information when asked a question like that.
Speaking from personal experience, dear? 
Esharra
Tue Mar 01, 2005 11:10 am
#184
/tar til; /handShovel
You dig yourself deeper for 25 points of negative female faction.
Message Edited by Esharra on 03-01-2005 12:34 PM
Viviane
Tue Mar 01, 2005 12:04 pm
#185
kirah_ashlin wrote:
My advise - don't let the thoughtlessness of others get to you . . . So many of these players are either kids or young men who don't understand that female players might not be here to find their live mate or that, even in our forward-thinking society, women rightfully feel uncomfortable when a guy gets in her face. They lack or are unwilling to adopt a proper attitude toward their fellow "female" characters - and they could have found themselves in an unexpected relationship with a toon that ended up being a guy on the other end.
I have rarely been asked my gender in SWG. I did, however, get accosted in the 'game that shall not be named' a couple of weeks ago by some kid who was "looking for a girl with the same interests" as his. He was so endearing about it, too - standing on my toes,throwing me kisses, tickling me, huggingme, flexing his muscles- all unsolicited or wanted. All I was doing was waitingnear the grif master for Roho to arrive. I informed him (politely) that I do not share personal information ingame. After a couple minutes he let it go - perhaps figuring I must be a guy on the other side of the monitor . . . I found myself tempted to tell him(considering the maturity level he was displaying) that I was probably about the same age as his mother . . . . Wouldn't that have made his day!
I share a male Bothan toon (master ent/master dancer/master musician) with a friend, and have found that I have more fun playing as an entertainer using him than when I wasdancing withmy main toon (female Twi). It was especially fun one night when some low life came in and started to /lick all the female dancers. I used that emote on him, and he began to freak when he saw it was coming from a male Bothan named Goose. Haven't seen him in the Theed cantina since 
And for those of us ladies who are on the mature side of the age scale, don't be afraid to tell the boys that you're old enough to be their mom. Works like a charm...well, more like a bucket of cold water *heh*.
Isleh
Tue Mar 01, 2005 1:38 pm
#186
Sunjammer wrote:
Sunjammer wrote:
This hasn't been an issue for me in SWG yet--possibly because I have a face like a tapir.
I can't say that any more. Tonight two completely different people asked if I was a girl in RL. And it totally freaked me out. I probably overreacted, but it felt like such an invasion of my privacy; I froze up and couldn't say anything. It was as if they were going to start stalking me if I said yes.
The first time it was /tell after he left the cantina, so I was able to ignore him and soon forget it, but the second time, the guy was standing right in front of me, and up till then we'd been having a normal conversation. I couldn't keep dancing, even after he apologized and left. It just destroyed any sense of comfort or safety. I even changed into a more modest shirt.
Any advice?
You can ask them if they are a real guy
Schardour
Tue Mar 01, 2005 2:14 pm
#187
Well, yeah, Ahazi.Eira has gotten an earful when she's asked that question before. O_o (I think he would have become a stalker, if I'd not added him to ignore. The man told me his life story in about 5 minutes, and made it quite clear, several times, that he was no longer married.)
FuschiaD wrote:
Schardour wrote:
NO! Don't do that! A young man may find it appropriate to share too much information when asked a question like that.
Speaking from personal experience, dear?
Mystyrys
Tue Mar 01, 2005 4:20 pm
#188
Hmm. If they are doing a fairly decent job of role playinga little flirtingand they don't get stupid or nasty, it doesn't bother me. I prefer role play. My Twi'lek Dancer/TKM has a flirty but shy attitude. My human Mayor/Tailor does not. Strictly business and lady-like. Except when she's being silly.
But if they are getting too personal out of character and just acting stupid in front of the crowd in the cantina, I simply don't answer. For those that are being politely inquisitive, I avoid complete answers but will admit to being a real female, married, with children. Those that choose to continue acting like nasty little jerks get ignored and reported.
Asa Mom with sons I have a high tolerance for rambunctious behavior and language and that odd fascination they have with all things gross. But I have limits to what I find amusing or entertaining. The line between humorous and disgusting can sometimes be very thin and fragile.
Message Edited by Mystyrys on 03-02-2005 01:06 AM
spacedoggys
Wed Mar 02, 2005 6:04 pm
#189
Nah , dosnt really bother me at all what people think i am. Those who know me well know i am a girl.
TabithaRashelle
Thu Mar 10, 2005 1:11 pm
#190
It didnt bother me until a guild leader in the gameI played before SWG decided he wanted me to be his in-game girlfriend. When i let him know I wasn't interested he decided to get "payback". At the end of it I found out he was 16 [I'm almost twice his age] and lived across the continent. The death threats he made and the electronic shenagins he played to get around being banned multiple times, however, caused me to call the local police and be in very real fear for my life and especially the life of my young son [who he also threatened to kill---strangely although he knew I was married, he never threatened to kill my husband, an ex-paratrooper]. So, if you are a little paranoid, it' okay in my book.
Ka_ren
Thu Mar 10, 2005 3:14 pm
#191
LoL! So I guess they won't feel threatened when I kill them with my new male wookiee. Funny when you are a girl playinga male toon you never get the "Are you a guy IRL"question.
LeBob wrote:
They make a huge deal about this kind of thing in the Bria forums
There are some players that post there and play on Bria that say they are girls... even post pictures of a girl holding a sign up with their forum handle written on it saying "I play SWG" etc..... they call them shims (she/him).....
I think it's really sad : (
Many guys feel threatened by playing a game like this with a female..... they are scared to loose in pvp to them etc..... in other words the guys have no real confidence in themselves, and the only way they can cope with it is to act like the girls are guys.... which makes many girls not want to participate in the forums or not want to say they are girls or worst of all not want to play the game anymore....
I really enjoy playing SWG and other MMOs with females
sorry if you are having trouble with this : /
p.s. my pic is on swg-faces.com under Bria : O : P heheeh
Devil_Tiger
Fri Mar 11, 2005 9:14 am
#192
When I use my entertainer (a female Twi'lek) I get asked off and on if I'm female IRL. Depending on how the conversation has been going and where I think they want it to go varies my answers.
"Yes, I am." if they have been polite and are just being curious about it.
"Yes, but I'm in a very serious relationship." if they have been mostly polite but flirty.
"I could be." if they have been nothing but flirty.
"Does it matter?" if they have been overly flirty leaning towards rude.
"No,and I like men." if they have been very rude or insistent about it.
I treat people based upon what I see in the game. If you are playing a female toon, I treat you as a female. If you are a male toon, I'll treat you as a male. It doesn't matterto mewho is behind the toon, what matters is how they play that toon. If you can find me in-game on Valcyn (this is a dare to anyone that doesn't know her name already ) and figure out who I am there, I'd be surprised.
) and figure out who I am there, I'd be surprised.There is a difference in how males treat females in this game and sometimes it's just wrong. Everyone, regardless of real life gender should be able to play and enjoy the game. Pushing and harassing someone about their gender takes away from that.
P.S. I'm not a girl IRL but I play one on SWG
FuschiaD
Fri Mar 11, 2005 9:48 am
#193
Devil_Tiger wrote:
If you can find me in-game on Valcyn (this is a dare to anyone that doesn't know her name already
You'd be surprised. Sometimes it's more obvious than you think.
Out of curiosity... you said that if someone asked you politely out of mere curiosity if you were a RL woman, you'd say yes. Yet you tell us at the end of your post that you are not. Why lie about it if the person has been polite?
Devil_Tiger
Fri Mar 11, 2005 11:18 am
#194
FuschiaD wrote:
Devil_Tiger wrote:
If you can find me in-game on Valcyn (this is a dare to anyone that doesn't know her name already
You'd be surprised. Sometimes it's more obvious than you think.
Out of curiosity... you said that if someone asked you politely out of mere curiosity if you were a RL woman, you'd say yes. Yet you tell us at the end of your post that you are not. Why lie about it if the person has been polite?
Well, that statement isn't entirely true. I have told people that I'm a guy IRL and their attitude towards me swung from being polite to being extremely rude and hostile, sometimes getting close to violent. I've had people challenge me to duels because of that. Most of the people that I'm honest with are friends that I trust completely and wouldn't run around shouting "so and so is a guy!". I try to get more into character, to become them, and it's hard to do that without thinking and acting like them. In my younger days, I was heavily interested in acting and put everything into my role to make them believable. If the whole thing is unbelievable, then the total image is destroyed and breaks down into something not worth being.
After posting that post, I've realized I may have made a serious mistake in judgement (not all that unusual for me some of the time). If I am found, more than likely something will happen to break the image and everything I've worked for will be lost 
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./bonk self maybe I'll put my application in for an ID10T card.
/runs away in shame
Edit: On a side note, I created my entertainer toon as an experiment to test a theroy of mine about the inequality of treatment towards female players. Part of that experiment included making people treat me as woman and making them believe that I was in fact a woman. As time went on, I started spending more time there with her and her ever expanding circle of friends than I was with my Rodian male and his tighter group of friends. I love being both characters and find it hard to leave either one behind in favor of the other. One day, I'll post my my thoughts, feelings, and findings about what started as an experiment and turned into a full blown character I can't live without.
Message Edited by Devil_Tiger on 03-11-2005 01:06 PM
Ka_ren
Fri Mar 11, 2005 12:15 pm
#195
Devil_Tiger wrote:
Edit: On a side note, I created my entertainer toon as an experiment to test a theroy of mine about the inequality of treatment towards female players. Part of that experiment included making people treat me as woman and making them believe that I was in fact a woman. As time went on, I started spending more time there with her and her ever expanding circle of friends than I was with my Rodian male and his tighter group of friends. I love being both characters and find it hard to leave either one behind in favor of the other. One day, I'll post my my thoughts, feelings, and findings about what started as an experiment and turned into a full blown character I can't live without.
Message Edited by Devil_Tiger on 03-11-2005 01:06 PM
That will be interesting to read.